America’s children are in crisis. They are suffering in every way. Emotionally, socially, and ultimately academically.
A high percentage of children are suffering or having problems at home. When you see your kids friends are excelling at school and in social activities and your child is not, do you feel like you did something wrong? Is your child depressed, hiding their feelings, or shying away from interaction with his friends and family, having difficulty with socialization?
Does your home feel like a pressure cooker? Are you and your spouse getting along? The single parent who keeps all their problems to themselves or conversely shares all their problems with their child is placing more responsibility on a kid then they are emotionally equipped to handle.
There could be a learning disability or perhaps your child is being bullied at school, on the playground, or by an authority figure. Maybe you have a teen that is being cyberbullied. These hidden secrets are unhealthy and can become destructive, cause a breakdown in communication, and behavioral problems at home and at school.
The Secret Box® is a safe place that fosters communication, a place where a child can be heard and understood. Children, parents, and teachers can learn to live healthier lives through communication and cooperation. It is important to realize that human behavior is learned. In fact, bullies are often the target of being bullied themselves. Bullying does not motivate. It is a fear tactic that allows others to think this behavior is acceptable. Setting examples for children such as yelling or threatening only engrains this behavior in them as being ok and is likely to make them future bullies. Establishing set rules and following through with previously discussed consequences instead of making a child scared by bullying them brings desired results in a healthier way. Bullying by older siblings, other family members, a coach, teacher, or anyone in authority is just not ok.
Identify the problem. Is your classroom a bully-free zone? Is your home a bully-free zone? Look at the emotional temperature in your home. When you see a student suffering or struggling or your home feels like a pressure cooker, take steps to ensure that your child’s environment is bully-free and that they know you are there for them to help achieve their full potential. Turn family breakdowns into family breakthroughs. Create a safe and private place where a child can be heard. Every school and every home should have Dr. Joe’s Secret Box®.